Fixing a Broken Partner Picker

•Don t Compare Partners
by Rinatta PariesHave you ever found yourself comparing your current partner to someone from your past, and finding your current partner lacking? Worse yet, have you found yourself telling your current partner he or she is being compared to someone in your past and falls short?What is it we are really after when comparing current and former partners? Do we want our current partners to be just like our exes? Probably not, or we would still be in thoserelationships. I think when we are making a...

•Ten Benefits of Having a Relationship Coach
 by: Rinatta Paries As a Master Certified Relationship Coach, I work with singles to help them attract a great match and with couples to help put their relationships back on track. I hear great feedback from my clients about the value of coaching. I think everyone can benefit from having a coach -- coaching can contribute that much to your life. Which is why you may be interested in seeing what some of my clients have said about the value they received from coaching. Here is a list of the...

•How To Open Up While Staying Safe
 by: Rinatta Paries When you've had your heart broken in a relationship, it can be difficult to open up to love again and entrust your heart to another person. Similarly, when your partner hurts you, it can difficult to open up and bring trust back into your relationship. It's hard to give your heart back to someone who has proven hurtful. Yet, you want to love, you want to trust, you want to open up. And so you do. Throwing caution to the wind you open up your heart again, hoping you will...

•Relationship Making
by Rinatta PariesDo you know how to establish a new relationship to guarantee that it will meet all of your and your partner's relationship needs?Most people don't know how to do this. As a result, most relationships go through a predictable cycle:=> Honeymoon: 1 week to 3 months=> Struggle: Up to 3 years or more=> Negotiation and peace or breakupTo avoid this cycle and establish a nourishing relationship for both of you, you and your partner need to have a deep, extended conversation. It may...

•Leave Your Needs at the Door
by Rinatta PariesA good relationship enriches and enhances your life. Whether you can attract and create an enriching relationship partly depends on what you think a relationship will do for you.There are two approaches to creating relationships. Some people want a relationship in order get their needs met. These individuals tend to have a long list of needs they are not meeting anywhere else, and want met when they connect with a partner. Unfortunately, approaching a relationship to get your...

•Clarifying Who You Are Seeking
by Rinatta PariesPeople usually get what they want in one of two ways. Some people have vivid clarity about their desired outcome and it seems to magically materialize. Surely you know someone like this, or perhaps you are even one of these people. To learn more about how to attract an ideal mate in this way, read The Power of Unwavering Belief(http://www.whatittakes.com/Archive/Newsletter1to9/newsletter__7.shtml).Other people cannot create what they want as easily. They must first get clear...

•Ten Ways to Blow It in a Relationship
by Rinatta PariesWhat do you do when you've attracted a lovely person into your life and now you're terrified you're going to blow it? Or, terrified it's going to end?Arm yourself with the following strategies, and you're sure to blow it in a relationship right from the start.1. Assume the person is your soul mate immediately upon meeting or shortly thereafter. Look for signs that faith has brought you together and be amazed by the correlations in yourlives.2. Forget about your life, your...

•Give Up to Get Love
by Rinatta PariesMany times when people want to attract their ideal partner, they often make a list of things to do -- action steps, if you will -- that will help them meet the one. They add new activities into their routine, join dating services, write singles ads. They may start an exercise program or buy new clothes in an effort to look better. They let their friends know they're in the market.Seldom do people think of giving up something as a way to attract Mr. or Ms. Right. Well, this is...

•Ten Ways to Evolve Part 2
by Rinatta PariesOver the past decade, I've worked with thousands of individuals seeking ways to improve their ability to attract their ideal mate. As a result, I've created a list of ten most commonly prescribed personal development steps I recommend for those wanting to attract and create their ideal relationship. Last week I shared the first half of the list. Today, we will round out the list with the last five personal development steps.Fortunately or unfortunately, the second half of...

•Ways to be Romantic
by Rinatta PariesRarely does Valentine's Day pass by without your notice. Even if you are single and think the day has no significance, the day will arrive and you will want a relationship more than usual. If you are in a relationship and Valentine's Day does not get celebrated, it will leave hurt and resentment in its wake.I invite you to think of Valentine's Day as Focus on Love Day, as opposed to Hurt About Lack of Love Day or Ignore Being Single Day.Below you will find ways to make your...