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When it comes to work, as with everything else, we need to do our best to minimize the negative aspects and maximize the positive. Every job has its down side. The question is whether there is enough good to balance out the bad. One way to tilt the balance in a positive direction is to choose work that you are passionate about. This can make it easier to tolerate difficult people at work. Another way is to choose a group of people that you enjoy working with, or the freedom of working by...
•Strategies for Managing Relationships
Following are some guidelines covering areas that people commonly struggle with. They are meant to help you maintain healthy boundaries and improve the quality of your interactions with others. When I use the term ‘boundaries’ in this psychological setting, I’m referring to that invisible fence that needs to exist between any two people in order for the relationship to be healthy. When someone tosses a psychological grenade into our emotional landscape, or trespasses on our domain by being...
•Taking Stock of Our Personal Relationships
One of the most important choices anyone makes in life is whom they spend their time with. The people we surround ourselves with will end up having influence on every area of our lives. Have you ever noticed that you may be having a wonderful day and feel very happy until someone who is being very negative comes around you and brings you down? This is magnified when it is someone you know personally and especially if it is someone close to you. However, the opposite is also true. You could...
•The Benefits of Doing Anger Work
The benefits of doing Anger Work are beyond measure. Instead of following in the footsteps of dysfunctional family role models you can find the freedom to break out of those behavior patterns and become the “you” that you have always wanted to be. Instead of sabotaging your own happiness by repressing your anger (which undermines your physical and emotional health via stress-related illness, obsessive-compulsive behavior, and/or depression) or exploding in anger (which fractures relationships...
•Anger Work Through Screaming
Another popular way to do Anger Work is through scream release work. There are two ways to go about this. The first technique is rather simple: just let out a yell. In my own therapy, when I was finally able to scream, I was sure that the world was going to come to an end. I still remember screaming as I was driving in my car. I was so surprised to find that I was fine and felt much better. I had had several years of therapy and lots of Anger Work prior to coming to this point, so you may not...
•How to Love Your Children Unconditionally
It is important to note that you build and create your children’s self-esteem and self image. The words and actions you choose in interacting with them will have long lasting effects on them for the rest of their lives. This may seem like a no brainer, but the problem that arises is what parents say when they are angry, tired, stressed, and when their child is not listening or obeying. The way you treat your children and the words you use with them matter. Even the things you think about your...
•Keepers and Tossers
“Keepers” and “Tossers” Every human being is valuable; however, not every relationship functions in a way that is beneficial to the parties involved. This is why we each need to take inventory of our lives and evaluate which relationships are “Keepers” and which are “Tossers.” “Tossers” are dysfunctional relationships that sap your energy or add negativity to your life, but are not important enough to be worth the investment of time and emotional energy it would require to try to improve them....
•Media and Your Well-Being
How often have you driven to work only to realize that you do not remember the journey? Perhaps you were zoned out. Can you remember what you were listening to during that time? How many ads played while you were driving? Were you listening to a talk show? If so, what attitudes and outlooks were expressed? Pay attention to this because unless you are playing a CD or music from your I-pod, chances are you’ve been listening to things that can and will affect you.
Music: In regards to music, we...
•Inspiring People Who Lived in the Moment
Through the years, I have had the privilege of meeting many incredible people who have had a profound effect on my life. They are wonderful examples of living in the moment; of how practicing this philosophy can change not only the individual who lives in the now, but how much they can affect those around them. I would like to share a couple of their inspirational stories with you.
Verna:
When I was working on a doctorate degree, I had the good fortune of meeting Verna, a wonderful woman...
•Implementing "Time-Out" with Younger Children
Most of you have probably heard of “time-out” before and we are mentioning it now because if done correctly it works, especially for younger children. The purpose of time out is to remove the child from a more reinforcing situation. Doing this weakens the misbehavior so that it occurs less frequently over time. This usually works relatively quickly unless the misbehavior has been previously positively reinforced for some time (i.e. getting what they want when they throw a temper tantrum)....
•Anger Work While Driving
For my readers who spend a lot of time in their vehicles every day, I have a couple of suggestions. First, while you are driving, you can squeeze the steering wheel and let your anger out. Or you can pound away on the seat or door next to you, or the dash board. Hitting the windshield is not recommended for obvious safety reasons. Yelling works really well too, and they will probably be the most useful to you in a driving situation because no one else will hear you.
People rarely take the...
•Effective Strategies For Anger Management
Hitting, shooting, and throwing things are very popular ways people do Anger Work. You can take hold of a bat and start pounding away on a bed, couch, toy, or an object that represents the person with whom you are angry. Some people prefer to use their hands instead of a bat. Either way works just as well, as long as you are not hurting yourself.
Take caution in what objects you are using as you would not want to destroy an object that you or someone else would miss. If it is precious to...
•The Peace In Living In The Present Moment
Many people struggle with two main things in life: Fear and Yearning. Fear can come from bad experiences in the past that we fear will repeat. Fear can also arise from considering the potential loss of the things we value or cherish. This could be a job, a house, a reputation, or a loved one. Yearning, on the other hand, may stem from pleasurable experiences in the past that ignite our desire for more, or from goals as yet unobtained, that we believe will bring us pleasure. ...
•The Pain of the Abusive
In terms of recovery outlook, how abused you are doesn’t matter as much as how abusive you are.
One of my professional and personal interests has been to interview people who have been extremely abusive and see how they feel about their abusive behavior. When I ask the questions in a non-shaming way, people usually confess to their horrible guilt and shame. They do not let others see this because they feel so bad already that they don’t want others to hurt them any further. It is like a child...
•Shame and Harm to Others
The more things you do to harm others, the more shame you have to heal from. It is true that victims sometimes feel shame over the degrading abuse they have experienced; however, this is much more easily overcome in therapy than the shame you feel over times that you yourself were abusive to others. As surprising as it is, time and time again I have found it to be true that the most important factor in a victim’s recovery from abuse is not what happened to him or her, but rather what he or she...
•Experiencing True Sadness and Using Anger Work to Overcome Depression
Do you find yourself suffering from depression? Usually depression results from some sort of trauma that has not been fully addressed. There are only two emotions that can help you overcome it. One is sadness and the other is anger. Sadness and Anger heal; depression does not. Sadness can be a very effective vehicle for healing. The only problem with sadness is that it is such a short leap from there to depression. Depression can keep a person stuck in the same place for years without any...
•Things People Do Instead Of Feeling Their Emotions
Many people who have had negative experiences from the past wish to avoid their feelings and they find many ways to do so. Some of these are different kinds of addictions that prevent them from "thinking too much" or getting in touch with their real feelings. One of the ways these people cope is through one or more of several kinds of addictions.
Some people turn to drugs (prescription or illicit) and alcohol to alter their moods so that they don't have to feel their true responses to the...
•Four Lessons from Children Concerning Anger Management
Lesson 1: The pure emotions of anger and sadness are the root cause of our more complicated adult feelings.
When children are traumatized, they heal from it naturally as long as there is a safe environment to do so. Many children experience a wide range of traumas like sexual abuse, death of a loved one, divorce, moving to a new neighborhood, or being teased at daycare. As surprising as it may be, I have observed that there are only two emotions which children express to help themselves heal....
•Building Strong Relationships with Your Children
One of the most important aspects of raising healthy children is parents’ presence in their children’s lives. Sadly, studies have shown that most parents spend well under 15 minutes per day actually communicating one on one with their children. The benefit of communicating one on one, making eye contact and paying attention to subtleties in your children’s body language allows you a view into their world. By doing this you will be aware if they are having problems at school, with friends,...
•Making Anger Work For You
Many people carry around old emotional wounds that they express in a variety of ways such as depression or rage. Anger Work teaches us that In order to heal the wounds, the person needs to specifically focus on the anger within. By focusing on the trauma over and over, the pain will gradually go away, never to affect you again. Anger Work is the path to healing!
Three kinds of people need anger work:
1. Those who know they are angry. 2. Those who are struggling with past events and perhaps...
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