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•Domestic Violence Treatment Domestic Abuse Intervention in the Context of Relationship Therapy
People ask, Why are you trying to help people 'fix' relationships that many people urge you to flee? We are by profession, practice and expertise healers first. Our belief is that people, at the core of their being, have the capacity for change.
Every person in an abusive relationship, whether they are the abuser or abused, can influence the dynamics of the relationship. Now this doesn't mean to imply that domestic abuse survivors are responsible for the battering or even have the ability to...
•Domestic Abuse Counseling How to Engage Your Partner in Abusive Relationship Therapy
Identifying the problem is half of the solution. We hear this in healthcare and in domestic abuse counseling, too.
But when you are on the receiving end of domestic abuse, you often lose sight of the fact that identifying the problem is part of the treatment. Battered women expect their abusive partners to have admitted that they are batterers in order to enter into therapy. Not true!
In fact, more often than not, batterers voluntarily entering into domestic abuse therapy are in denial that...
•Domestic Abuse Counseling 5 Clues for a Positive Outcome in Domestic Abuse Treatment
Do you think my husband will/can change? Spousal abuse survivors embarking on domestic abuse counseling ask this question. They want to know if I think their husbands will change. And the husbands secretly ask, Will/can she change?
Now, let's face I, I don't have a crystal ball but I can tell you what a good prognosis looks like. I can tell you how someone presents wherein the chances are in their favor for a positive outcome in domestic abuse treatment. And, I can tell you which prospective...
•Domestic Violence and Divorce The Epidemic Facing Battered Mothers in Family Court
Battered mothers in divorce court often look like swine flu survivors that haven't realized they are part of an epidemic. These women are in awe over what is happening or has happened to them and their children.
They go into court expecting justice and walk out thinking they missed the boat or those on their ship merely kicked them off. And from here, they franticly reach out merely trying to stay afloat in the wake. They are perplexed as to why and how they end up with supervised visitation...
•Domestic Violence Treatment Healing the Two Sides of Boundary Issues in Abusive Relationships
People say that domestic violence victims have serious boundaries issues...which they do. And so do the perpetrators that they live with. It comes with the territory of being in an abusive relationship.
You might think of it as two people having a tolerance for the actions of the other. Or, it can be seen as operant conditioning in play wherein one person conditions the other to surrender their boundaries for safety in the relationship. Abusive relationship help typically recognizes these...
•Healing Emotional Abuse Boundary Issues of Domestic Violence
We hear about domestic abuse survivors' boundary issues as though this is what got them in the abusive relationship. Well, maybe it did. However, it's also true that their progressive dismantling of their personal boundaries is what keeps them safe while living in an abusive relationship.
If you are in an abusive relationship, you probably know what I mean. Now it may not necessarily be something that you are conscious of, but I trust you are aware of the fact that if you say no, to...
•Psychological Help for Patients Victimized by Intimate Partners A Clinical Advocacy Model
When the family wants the patient sick, treatment and recovery are impossible. This is the way it usually appears for all practical purposes. Family members' defenses protect interpersonal and intergenerational dysfunction...unless the patient is internally inspired and externally supported to break the cycle.
As clinicians we know the patient's resistance is an integral part of the psychotherapeutic change process. And in the context of therapy we learn to work with it. We use it to create...
•Legal Domestic Abuse The Reality of Family Violence and Institutionalized Abuse
When domestic abuse survivors show up in the system to protect their children and themselves from family violence, they can unknowingly step into institutionalized abuse. This is especially true when they rely on family court to provide remedy for domestic violence.
What Is Institutionalized Abuse?
Institutionalized abuse is where one person willfully, openly and legally is taking advantage of and violating the rights and liberties of another person...all while being paid.
People worldwide...
•Shedding Domestic Violence Survivor Habits Who s Fault Is It
? Most of the time what people do to us is not about us; it's all about them. But, when on the receiving end, we don't see it that way. We assume it is because of us.
This is especially true of domestic violence survivors, who have become accustomed to believing other people's actions toward them are their fault. It's part of the indoctrination of intimate partner violence: You made me do it. You made me say it, feel it, think it...
Domestic Abuse Survivor Faulty Thinking
If you are a...
•Domestic Abuse Treatment The Right Help for an Abusive Relationship
Domestic violence is recognized as a condition that exists within an intimate relationship. But its source is intra-psychic, meaning arising out of an individualnamely, the batterer. Most people will acknowledge this as true.
I often hear domestic violence survivors tell me that they want to help their partners once they learn of the intra-psychic issues underlying their partner's inappropriate abusive aggression. The question is, how?
Abuser as Victim
Months and, in some cases, years may...
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