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•Domestic Abuse Treatment The Right Help for an Abusive Relationship
Domestic violence is recognized as a condition that exists within an intimate relationship. But its source is intra-psychic, meaning arising out of an individualnamely, the batterer. Most people will acknowledge this as true.
I often hear domestic violence survivors tell me that they want to help their partners once they learn of the intra-psychic issues underlying their partner's inappropriate abusive aggression. The question is, how?
Abuser as Victim
Months and, in some cases, years may...
•Legal Psychiatric Psychological Abuse From Family to Court from Court to Shrink
A survivor asks, Once your abusive partner has used the legal system for further abuse, and final papers are filed with you having to see a psychologist of his choosing, what do you do? How do you turn the case around? He continues to threaten to take the children away.
When you are in this situation, it feels like something went wrong. You ask yourself, How is it that I'm the victim/survivor and I'm having to defend myself and prove my mental/emotional stability. Right?
If you are in this...
•Psychological Help for Patients Victimized by Intimate Partners A Clinical Advocacy Model
When the family wants the patient sick, treatment and recovery are impossible. This is the way it usually appears for all practical purposes. Family members' defenses protect interpersonal and intergenerational dysfunction...unless the patient is internally inspired and externally supported to break the cycle.
As clinicians we know the patient's resistance is an integral part of the psychotherapeutic change process. And in the context of therapy we learn to work with it. We use it to create...
•Spousal Emotional Abuse How to Break the Cycle of Emotional Psychological Abuse
Emotional psychological abuse from your intimate partner is as clear as the day is long when on the receiving end. But for the bystanders, it's ambiguous.
Some people will even tell you that when you are the abused, on some level, you become a bystander. It is as though you take yourself out of the line of fire simply to survive the blows of spousal emotional abuse, and ultimately exist.
You hate being hated. Your tire of being told how inadequate you are, how you are...
•Domestic Abuse Therapy 4 Fundamental Steps to Dismantling Your Partner s Denial
You may be longing for help with domestic abuse, yet your partner is in complete denial. What do you do?
Some people shy away from getting help for domestic violence because they claim that their partner will never admit to being abusive. Well, this may be true, but this is certainly not a reason to allow things to remain status-quo.
Your partner's denial is the normal resistance in the initial stage of treatment. Domestic violence therapy is designed to help one overcome that very...
•Legal Domestic Abuse The Reality of Family Violence and Institutionalized Abuse
When domestic abuse survivors show up in the system to protect their children and themselves from family violence, they can unknowingly step into institutionalized abuse. This is especially true when they rely on family court to provide remedy for domestic violence.
What Is Institutionalized Abuse?
Institutionalized abuse is where one person willfully, openly and legally is taking advantage of and violating the rights and liberties of another person...all while being paid.
People worldwide...
•Readiness Assessment How Do You Know When Someone Can Benefit from Psychotherapy
? The patient's partner asks, How do I know she can benefit from psychotherapy? And I'm honored to have the answer roll right out of me.
This is a question that many family members have once they reach that point of doubt. You know what I mean. Doubt that the patient will be anything other than what they are.
It is also a question I get from the family members that are entangled co-dependently with the identified patient. It is the question of someone with resistance of their own.
Answering...
•Healing from Domestic Abuse How to Know if You Will Avoid Another Abusive Relationship
People say once a victim, always a victim. I beg to differ.
Over the years I have been watching men and women grow to become self-sufficient, self-respecting people who have no tolerance for being abused any more. These people have completely healed from domestic abuse.
How do you know if you are going to be one of these people versus the person that ends up in another abusive relationship? Here are some pointers for knowing you're home free when it comes to being victimized by intimate...
•Legal Abuse Does the System Not Work or Do You Not Know How to Work the System
? Battered women and uninformed bystanders frequently say that the system doesn't work. While it may not be perfect, it most certainly works. The real problem is most people don't know how to work the system.
Domestic abuse survivors go to divorce court expecting it to remedy abuse. Well, that's like going to your gynecologist when you have a toothache. Your OBGYN is not trained in, nor equipped to, treat problems with your teeth.
And in the same way the divorce court is not the legal venue...
•Domestic Violence and Divorce The Epidemic Facing Battered Mothers in Family Court
Battered mothers in divorce court often look like swine flu survivors that haven't realized they are part of an epidemic. These women are in awe over what is happening or has happened to them and their children.
They go into court expecting justice and walk out thinking they missed the boat or those on their ship merely kicked them off. And from here, they franticly reach out merely trying to stay afloat in the wake. They are perplexed as to why and how they end up with supervised visitation...
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