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•Healing Emotional Abuse Boundary Issues of Domestic Violence
We hear about domestic abuse survivors' boundary issues as though this is what got them in the abusive relationship. Well, maybe it did. However, it's also true that their progressive dismantling of their personal boundaries is what keeps them safe while living in an abusive relationship.
If you are in an abusive relationship, you probably know what I mean. Now it may not necessarily be something that you are conscious of, but I trust you are aware of the fact that if you say no, to...
•Domestic Violence and Divorce The Epidemic Facing Battered Mothers in Family Court
Battered mothers in divorce court often look like swine flu survivors that haven't realized they are part of an epidemic. These women are in awe over what is happening or has happened to them and their children.
They go into court expecting justice and walk out thinking they missed the boat or those on their ship merely kicked them off. And from here, they franticly reach out merely trying to stay afloat in the wake. They are perplexed as to why and how they end up with supervised visitation...
•Domestic Violence Treatment Domestic Abuse Intervention in the Context of Relationship Therapy
People ask, Why are you trying to help people 'fix' relationships that many people urge you to flee? We are by profession, practice and expertise healers first. Our belief is that people, at the core of their being, have the capacity for change.
Every person in an abusive relationship, whether they are the abuser or abused, can influence the dynamics of the relationship. Now this doesn't mean to imply that domestic abuse survivors are responsible for the battering or even have the ability to...
•Legal Domestic Abuse The Reality of Family Violence and Institutionalized Abuse
When domestic abuse survivors show up in the system to protect their children and themselves from family violence, they can unknowingly step into institutionalized abuse. This is especially true when they rely on family court to provide remedy for domestic violence.
What Is Institutionalized Abuse?
Institutionalized abuse is where one person willfully, openly and legally is taking advantage of and violating the rights and liberties of another person...all while being paid.
People worldwide...
•Domestic Abuse Counseling 5 Clues for a Positive Outcome in Domestic Abuse Treatment
Do you think my husband will/can change? Spousal abuse survivors embarking on domestic abuse counseling ask this question. They want to know if I think their husbands will change. And the husbands secretly ask, Will/can she change?
Now, let's face I, I don't have a crystal ball but I can tell you what a good prognosis looks like. I can tell you how someone presents wherein the chances are in their favor for a positive outcome in domestic abuse treatment. And, I can tell you which prospective...
•Domestic Violence Counseling When the Counselor Becomes Your Enemy
I often hear domestic violence survivors complain that the counselor they are seeing with their partner has sided with him/her. These victims expected to seek therapeutic remedy for the dysfunction that they live, and they discover they have gained another enemy.
Here are some things you will want to know if you are going to a therapist with your partner for domestic abuse.
1) Expect the therapy to be fertile ground for a continuation of what you experience in the privacy of your own home....
•After the Abusive Relationship Long Term Aid for Domestic Abuse Survivors
Do what you're called to do and the universe will support you. You've probably heard this, but may be scratching your head thinking about your bills, responsibilities and all of the what ifs...
This is understandable. So rather than jump in with blind faith, I want to invite your everyday casual, rational mind to do what you're called to do. And then, address the missing link domestic abuse survivors commonly bring to the table.
Doing What You're Called to Do Is Your JOB
When you're doing...
•Shedding Domestic Violence Survivor Habits Who s Fault Is It
? Most of the time what people do to us is not about us; it's all about them. But, when on the receiving end, we don't see it that way. We assume it is because of us.
This is especially true of domestic violence survivors, who have become accustomed to believing other people's actions toward them are their fault. It's part of the indoctrination of intimate partner violence: You made me do it. You made me say it, feel it, think it...
Domestic Abuse Survivor Faulty Thinking
If you are a...
•Psychological Legal Abuse When Your Psychotherapy Is the Victim
We all know that when we see a victim of domestic abuse, there are other people impacted by this person's victimization. Some are affected directly, some indirectly, some intentionally and some inadvertently.
Now if you've read my writings, you know I address the impact of intimate partner violence on survivors, on children, on batterers in divorce, and on the healthcare providers employed.
Come with me and let's look closer at the impact of this dynamic on your therapy. Let's say you and...
•Healing from Emotional Abuse and the Physical Injuries of Domestic Violence
Each time I encounter the body's ability to heal itself, I'm in awe. And to witness the role of intention in this is even more mind-boggling.
As domestic violence survivors, you know the scars and wounds of battering. Did you know you can have a very active role in healing these injuries?
I'm going to insert an earlier writing of mine in which I'm reflecting on a milestone in my own process dating back to 1988, because it says it from that battered place common to domestic abuse survivors....
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