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•Differences Can Lead to Greater Intimacy in Marriage
Two questions:
* Why do made-for-each-other love bugs butt heads, step on each others toes, and get their wires crossed?
* In a discussion with your sweetie, have you ever said something like, Well, in my book [fill in the blank].
The answer to the second question is sure you have. The answer to the first question is this:
The book you're referring to is the unique and complex mix of your preferences, opinions, priorities, standards, points of view, and sensitivities, all shaped by your...
•Marriage It Is NOT Hard Work
Marriage. It's hard work. Bologna. If my beloved had said, You know, honey, being married to me is going to require hard work, I would have cut and run. My idea of a great marriage is not tantamount to labor camp. Yet we hear over and again, Marriage is hard work. It's not.
What's hard work is:
Being right. Just as you can't have left without right, up without down, cold without hot, or light without dark, you can't be right without someone else being wrong. While there are things that, based...
•A Better Way to Keep Score and Keep Your Marriage Happy
Keeping score can keep your relationship happy.
I know. That's contrary to what gurus have been spouting since the day Adam met Eve. So, before you decide I'm some sort of nut, let me add that I am no-way-Jose advocating the all too popular tit-for-tat two rights make a wrong justification of your bad behavior by that of your partner. Nope. That is not a good idea, not if you want a great relationship.
Having said that, it's time to 'fess up. We all keep score. Even the most...
•Better Emotional Intimacy 50 Ways to Love Your Lover
In 1975 Paul Simon released his hit song 50 Ways to Leave Your Lover. I recently looked up the lyrics and discovered something I'd failed to notice in 1975 when I was hummin' along. The song is about a woman giving a man advice on how to extricate himself from his current relationship. The song ends with said woman kissing him and suggesting that they sleep on it, a suggestion which leads him to conclude that she's probably right-there must be 50 ways to leave your lover. Hmmmm . . . sounds...
•Marriage and Partnership The Power of Two
The exponential power of two. It's one of the great things about being in a committed relationship. When there's dry cleaning to pick up, groceries to buy, a dog to walk, a UPS truck that's expected, a lawn that needs mowing, a kid with a tummy ache, windows to wash, and dinner to prepare, having someone share the load makes life a lot easier.
Ditto when you hit the rough spots. Double ditto when you face challenges. Cranky and downright unpleasant. We've all been there. Down in the dumps just...
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