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•Domestic Violence Divorce The Cobra Batterer Child Custody Seeker
Have you ever noticed how some abusers will fight you to the end for custody and others give it up and walk away? Now this observation may be contrary to common understanding by those in the domestic violence divorce circles. However, from the clinical perspective, these are the trends.
In the 90's Drs. Jacobson and Gottman describe the difference between two kinds of batterers. They call one group the Pit Bulls and the other the Cobras.
Pit Bulls and Child Custody
Pit Bulls usually come...
•Domestic Violence and Divorce The Epidemic Facing Battered Mothers in Family Court
Battered mothers in divorce court often look like swine flu survivors that haven't realized they are part of an epidemic. These women are in awe over what is happening or has happened to them and their children.
They go into court expecting justice and walk out thinking they missed the boat or those on their ship merely kicked them off. And from here, they franticly reach out merely trying to stay afloat in the wake. They are perplexed as to why and how they end up with supervised visitation...
•Spousal Legal Abuse Sticks and Stones in Family Court
I hear battered women's outrage over what their opposition says about them in divorce court. They take it to heart and integrate the slanderous comments as though they really are the picture painted by the other side.
Best part of it is they usually are not correct in their assumptions and beliefs. Part of my job then becomes helping them awaken to this...and, of course, become enlightened warriors during the warfare and thereafter.
If you are a domestic violence survivor in divorce court...
•Domestic Violence and Custody Child Abuse and the Replay Button
The next worst thing to being abused is retelling the story over and over, again and again in the context of a custody dispute. Of course, the operative words here are over and over again and again.
If you think you are doing your child a service by letting his/her voice be heard in your custody battle, think again. Not about their voice factored into the equation, but about the impact of telling his/her story, over and over again.
Hearing Your Abused Child's Voice
It's one thing to hear...
•Psychological Legal Abuse When Your Psychotherapy Is the Victim
We all know that when we see a victim of domestic abuse, there are other people impacted by this person's victimization. Some are affected directly, some indirectly, some intentionally and some inadvertently.
Now if you've read my writings, you know I address the impact of intimate partner violence on survivors, on children, on batterers in divorce, and on the healthcare providers employed.
Come with me and let's look closer at the impact of this dynamic on your therapy. Let's say you and...
•Healing Parental Alienation Abuse Lost Kidnapped Child as Trauma or as Love
Is your lost, kidnapped child your trauma or your love? Your answer to this question is the cornerstone to your healing the trauma of parental alienation abuse.
I was stunned into an appreciation of the trauma replacing love as I was watching Private Practice last night. Violet had suffered her unborn child having been ripped from her womb by one of her mentally ill patientsa violation like none other.
And then she could not bond with this baby. It was as though her trauma took over the...
•Legal Psychiatric Psychological Abuse From Family to Court from Court to Shrink
A survivor asks, Once your abusive partner has used the legal system for further abuse, and final papers are filed with you having to see a psychologist of his choosing, what do you do? How do you turn the case around? He continues to threaten to take the children away.
When you are in this situation, it feels like something went wrong. You ask yourself, How is it that I'm the victim/survivor and I'm having to defend myself and prove my mental/emotional stability. Right?
If you are in this...
•Domestic Violence Divorce The Key to Legal Psychiatric Abuse Prevention
For over a decade, I have been writing about domestic violence divorce and legal-psychiatric abuse to help battered mothers in family court. There's no question in my mind that people who are re-victimized by a perpetrator's use of the system know who they are. They know when this is happening to them.
But, more often than not, they lose sight of the abuse dynamics in play and fail to identify the actual players. Then there are those survivors who know the dynamics and players, but remain...
•Parental Alienation How to Prepare for Your Parent Adult Child Reunion
You are backed into supervised or therapeutic visitation and your children are brainwashed to see you as 'danger.' The alienating parent cuts you out of your lost child's life. When you realize there's nothing to hold onto, you pack your personals, grab what's left of your life and run. Sounding familiar...?
Some people leave for a job, some move toward friends or family, and others leave to hold onto their sanity or criminal free record.
Parental Alienation - Distant Parent and Lost Child...
•Legal Domestic Abuse The Reality of Family Violence and Institutionalized Abuse
When domestic abuse survivors show up in the system to protect their children and themselves from family violence, they can unknowingly step into institutionalized abuse. This is especially true when they rely on family court to provide remedy for domestic violence.
What Is Institutionalized Abuse?
Institutionalized abuse is where one person willfully, openly and legally is taking advantage of and violating the rights and liberties of another person...all while being paid.
People worldwide...
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