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Leaving an Abusive Relationship What You Must Know to Leave an Abusive Relationship Safely
Often times we hear that leaving an abuser, can be deadly. According to FBI reports 75% of all homicides by intimate male partners occurred after the victim left.
Battered women are far more vulnerable to physical attack as well as attacks to their personal privacy, their civil liberties and their parental rights after they leave. Now you might ask why.
Why are battered women at greater danger when they leave?
When a victim leaves an abusive relationship and moves out, the mere physical...
Domestic Abuse Counseling How to Engage Your Partner in Abusive Relationship Therapy
Identifying the problem is half of the solution. We hear this in healthcare and in domestic abuse counseling, too.
But when you are on the receiving end of domestic abuse, you often lose sight of the fact that identifying the problem is part of the treatment. Battered women expect their abusive partners to have admitted that they are batterers in order to enter into therapy. Not true!
In fact, more often than not, batterers voluntarily entering into domestic abuse therapy are in denial that...
Healing in Abusive Relationships 7 Secrets to Successful Survival in an Abusive Relationship
Far too often, we hear individuals in abusive relationships seeking to change their partners in order to change their relationship. While it is true that a change in either person will change the overall dynamic of the relationship, changing one's partner is only an option if it is partner-self-initiated.
Rather than holding onto something that is essentially out of one's controlactually not one's businesslook to changing what is within your control and is indeed your business: yourself. In...
Emotionally Abusive Relationship Intervention 3 Keys to Freeing Yourself from Emotional Abuse
A psychologist in India recently asked me to write about the following - How can a woman, one without access to professional help, take steps towards freeing herself from an emotionally abusive relationship?
As I think about this question, I realize that this was the inspiration for my writing in the first place. I wanted to reach battered women who requested, but could not afford, my professional services.
In my writings over the last three years, I have focused on the psychology of...
Domestic Violence Treatment To Honor or to Attack as a Trainable Dimension in Abuse Treatment
You can only feel that which leaves me feeling comfortable. Sound familiar?
Battered women and abused men know that when they experience and express a feeling that is not in harmony with their abusive partner, then there will be a price paid.
Price for Your Experience Not Supporting Your Abusive Partner's Well-Being
It may be in the form of an argument, some name-calling, character assassination, or a full-blown fight over everything and nothing.
It is as though the abusive partner does...
Abusive Relationship Healing 7 Secrets for Greater Well being after an Abusive Relationship
Adversity is part of life. It comes in all shapes and sizes. It's not what happens to you; it's what you do about it that matters most.
Battered women also come in all shapes and sizes. And I'm convinced that what they choose to do with their circumstances, after the fact, is far more important to the bigger picture of their lives than anything else.
Here are some things that will increase your well-being after an abusive relationship.
1) Keep yourself in a place of pure positive energy...
Healing from Domestic Abuse How to Know if You Will Avoid Another Abusive Relationship
People say once a victim, always a victim. I beg to differ.
Over the years I have been watching men and women grow to become self-sufficient, self-respecting people who have no tolerance for being abused any more. These people have completely healed from domestic abuse.
How do you know if you are going to be one of these people versus the person that ends up in another abusive relationship? Here are some pointers for knowing you're home free when it comes to being victimized by intimate...
Domestic Violence Survival Tips 3 Keys to Surviving the Conditioning in an Abusive Relationship
Understanding the conditioning that occurs in abusive relationships is key to one's survival in, and after, the relationship. Here are three keys to help you see the role and effects of conditioning in abusive relationships.
1) You did not make him/her do it or say it.
You probably know this from the core of your being, but may have trouble believing it with your thinking brain, due to the ongoing conditioning that happens in abusive relationships. With most things in the relationshipwhen...
Abusive Relationship Help Changing the Dynamics of Abusive Relationships Habits of Victimization
When I tell you 'no' and you whine, get angry...etc, then my job is to simply allow you the space to experience that which you feel.
If you live in an abusive relationship or have left one, this probably doesn't sound familiar. But you know in your heart that if it were this way, your relationships would be more satisfying.
Who Owns Whose Upset
In abusive relationships here's what more typically happens. The controlling partner expresses a desire for something, and the less empowered...
Healing from Domestic Abuse The Creation and Implication of Fuzzy Versus Firm Boundaries
People treat you the way you teach them to treat you. If you request and insist on your boundaries being honored, they will be. On the other hand, if you allow others to determine whether to respect your limits or not, then expect your boundaries to be treated as they wish to do so.
This is an important lesson for anyone who has ever been in an abusive relationship, either with a parent or with an intimate partner. It's a lesson that requires clear and focused integration and application, yet...
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