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Reframing Rejection
by Peter Murphy Fear of rejection is one of the greatest fears shared by allhuman beings. Nobody wants to feel left out, unwanted or unliked.And at the same time what we really want is to be loved andaccepted by everyone - that would be bliss. It will never happenthough because we all have biases,opinions and beliefs that colorthe way we look at the world.So people will reject us no matter how good we look, no matterhow successful we are, and no matter how giving we are. If wewere to become...
How to Kill Fear When Dealing with Aggressive People
by: Peter Murphy
The book Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers is regarded as a self help classic. Have you read it?
I read it many years ago and I was disappointed by the content of this book that has helped a lot of people take control of their fears. Why? Because I believe we all have the power to go far beyond feeling the fear.
And I really think it is important to learn how to transform fear into courage by learning how to use more of your mind and how to take charge of...
Getting What You Want Most From Other People
by Peter Murphy Very often in relationships we do not seem to beable to get the one thing we want more thananything else - the approval of other people.In fact the more we want it the more difficultit can be to turn the situation around.Typical approaches include withdrawing fromother people so that only those who are reallyinterested in you will make the effort to getto know you. The other person takes on all therisk of rejection and you risk not havingsomeone make the effort to approach...
12 Reasons to Develop Exceptional People Skills
by: Peter Murphy
Why should you bother to spend your valuable time learning how to develop exceptional people skills?
Here's why...
Look at the people who seem to have it all - a great job, an active social life and a happy family life. What do these people have in common?
They all have excellent communication skills.
To join the people at the top and to live a more fulfilling and enjoyable life there is no alternative but to become one of the few that have truly mastered...
First Impressions turn fear into courage
by Peter MurphyThe top business people all say the same thing first impressionscount. Sounds easy, and it is easy for those few who can start a conversation with just about anyone but how many people do you knowwho are like that?On the other hand when youre shy its easy to avoid other people, shyness automatically comes with a PhD in how to creatively avoidpeople, especially strangers! However this tendency can provedetrimental to your business especially when you consider that your...
4 Ways To Avoid Looking Stupid When Making Small Talk
by: Peter Murphy
The fear of saying something silly and feeling embarrassed stops many of us from contributing more to discussions at work and when we are relaxing with friends.
And ironically the more we worry about it, the more tense we get and the more likely we are to say something stupid.
Let us a take a look at some remedies:
1. Learn to relax when you feel under pressure.
I often talk about the importance of managing your emotions
This is an essential skill.
There are a...
Three Great Ways to Deal with Negative People
by: Peter Murphy
1. Do not believe everything you hear!
With close friends and family it is not unusual to think that you ought to take onboard everything you hear. However do not confuse caring with knowing.
Just because someone is concerned for your welfare does not mean that their advice or input has value. For example, I know a lot about peak performance. I do not know much about car maintenance.
If I ever offer you advice on rebuilding a car engine run as fast as you can! My...
How You Developed Bad Habits That Rob You Of Motivation
by: Peter Murphy
Bad habits rob you of your motivation.
Today I want to tell you why I decided I absolutely had to take charge of my self-motivation. And why you must do the same.
As you read this article you will start to understand why a lack of motivation is costing you even more than you realize.
Growing up I never really had much trouble getting things done. I was told what to do by my parents or by my teachers and I did what was expected of me because it was the easiest choice...
Why Pacing and Leading is for Wimps
by: Peter Murphy
Okay, you have read some books on body language and they all said you must mirror and match, pace and lead....
And you failed miserably when you went out into the real world.
Let me tell you why and what you need to do instead. But first a story that illustrates my point...
A few years ago I moved into a very well paid position in the company where I worked. And in my new job I was dealing with company directors, business owners and senior executives -- face to...
7 Tips For Lasting Motivation And Greater Success
by: Peter Murphy
Lasting motivation is possible once you adopt an outlook that allows you to be more successful. Here are seven tips you can use today to overcome procrastination and start achieving much more.
1. Success is not achieved accidentally. It is a systematic, deliberate process of deciding what you want to do with your life, what you will do when you get there, and what the steps are to get you where you want to be.
One of the most important aspects of success is the ability...
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