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How to Keep Your Relationship When It s Going Wrong A Short Story





If you want to keep your relationship even though it's not going quite the way you want, there are some things that you should not do. Negative patterns of behaviour obviously contribute to dating and relationship failures. Read the story below and see whether you are making basic mistakes that can end up driving your man away for good.

The other day, when I was out walking, I heard a girl screaming down the phone to her boyfriend about how he didn't seem to be interested in her any more. Lets call her Emma and him Rob. She was obviously distressed and was crying about how she thought that he was more interested in hanging out with another girl (lets call her Nikki).

I found this inordinately strange behaviour, and extremely self defeating. For how on earth could Emma think that shouting down the phone at Rob would make him want to spend more time with her?

Quite apart from the fact that you cannot make someone behave as you wish, it is actually a form of bullying to expect to be able to shout at someone in order to get them to do what you want.

Now, I have to say, that I am not perfect and I have been in these situations myself. I have totally experienced the sheer frustration that Emma was probably feeling on that occasion, and I understand the temptation to "lose it" with the person you want because they are not acting as you would wish or living up to your expectations.

However, you must see by now, that this does not work. When Rob is hanging out with Nikki, he's probably having fun. It's easy and light hearted. Nikki is enjoying his company and it shows. Emma, however, has let all her fears overtake her. She has realised that Rob is not quite giving her what she wants and is nagging and shouting at him. When he's with Emma, everything feels heavy and hard work. If you were Rob which one would you choose to spend your time with?

If negative patterns are taking over your relationship, whether you are just dating or in a committed relationship, it's wise to take a step back and evaluate what you are contributing to the situation in terms of positive and negative. If he's not giving you what you want, decide whether this is a relationship that you should be in. You won't change him with shouting and criticism. If you want to keep your relationship and make it work, then maybe it's time to re-think your patterns of behaviour. If a man is not finding that you're fun and easy to be around, then he's not going to want to stick around long term.
About Author Lucy O'Brien :

To succeed at dating and find a strong, loving relationship, you need to understand what really makes a man feel good. There is a certain type of woman that a man is irresistibly attracted to. She knows how to captivate him and communicate with him to draw him close and get him to respond in the ways that she wants. You can learn to be the type of woman that men adore and never want to leave. You can also visit my website to sign up for my free dating success guide.


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Article Added on Saturday, June 9, 2012
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